If you know me well you know that my posts come out as I write them. If your my friend you know I have dreams far beyond those of many people around me. If your my family you know my love for singing. All these things are about me but how well do others know you? Do they know how beautiful you are or how hard you work? Do they know your flaws and your goals or do you hide them in fear people will reject you? Are you putting on a happy face and hiding behind the requirements of life and the influencers in your life? It's not too late to show everyone else and yourself the power of you being you.
Tireless years of living up to others expectations left me drained and giving up at only 22 years old. I had a baby to support and a family that seemed to me to have less than hope in my many endeavors to become who I wanted to be so I gave up. I spent months being who they wanted me to be, working part-time pointless jobs that I knew would eventually lead me nowhere. When I couldn't handle that anymore I signed my life away and let someone else take care of me for the next 2 years but what I learned in that time shaped who I am today.
I won't lie and say I am fully confident in my life and where I am going but I know I am working on it. I know what my goals are and what I need to do to achieve them. I am confident in the person I am and have no problem talking about my dreams to anyone who will listen no matter how ridiculous to them it may seem. I have a plan and I will get there one day.
My confidence comes from a variety of things. One of the biggest was having someone to support me no matter what. Sort of like a life coach and no this is not required for what I am about to explain. It was more him being the kick in the butt I needed so If you need one of those here's your kick.
Kick!!!!
Let's face it. We all deal with the same everyday things. Work, the bills, the daily hustle and bustle that we call life and the world we live in. But nobody dares tell us how to deal with it all because the rest of us can't figure it out either. The good comes and goes and the bad seems to hover over us in all the wrong times. There was a lot I needed to realize.
1. Things happen whenever they want. It's not karma. You are not a bad person.
2. Someone will always try to belittle your dreams and goals because they themselves to do not have the strength in themselves to succeed.
3. You will get nowhere by sitting idly by You must take action
4. Just because you realize who your are and who you want to be doesn't mean those closest to you will understand or be able to accept the changes you are making.
And 5. You will fail! Over and over and over before anything comes to be what you want it. You have lived life for so long doing things the same way you always did and you will have to learn through mistake and adjust in order for things to change
I know, I know you have heard all the same things before so what's my point? I cannot tell you how many times I heard all of these things over and over before I learned how to apply these things to my life and forgive me for the language but my motto became "I don't give a f**k"
It encompassed everything I needed to be able to believe in myself again. I didn't care what people thought about me and how I did things. I am my own person and I had to stop caring about what everyone else thought in order to make myself happy which is the first step to succeeding. You have to be happy with yourself and confident in your own goals without letting those negative thoughts change you and your thoughts. Only you know what you are capable of and only you have the ability to make what you want a reality.
As I did the many things I have pointed out I became not only a happier person (I've always been optimistic) but a stronger person. I was able to see how me being me affected my life and those around me. I was more confident and made sure I was spending the time I had investing in my future and what I wanted it to be. Not what anyone else wanted it to be,
Again I won't lie and tell you I am all set where I am and that I have done all the necessary things and that this is now where I stand. Telling you how to be you. No, this is a step on the road I have taken for myself and my daughter. To tell the truth I am applying for more of the same part-time dead end jobs I described before but my outlook on them is now different. I can use these jobs to work on other things that will benefit me in the future. The customer service, the money of course, etc, etc, My point is I could be miserable about having to get a crappy job or I could look at this as a step. I choose the step.
What are some of yours goals? Think big. Now adjust and come up with a plan. Only you can make you truly happy. Not your kids, not your spouse. They can be part of what makes you happy and part of your accomplished goals but in the end you have to know that even they will not make you happy if you are not happy with yourself.
You are the best you, the only you and I love you for you!
In the comments below I would love to hear your goals and aspirations and how you plan to get there. Others may learn from you as well so don't be afraid to be you and share.
I won't lie and say I am fully confident in my life and where I am going but I know I am working on it. I know what my goals are and what I need to do to achieve them. I am confident in the person I am and have no problem talking about my dreams to anyone who will listen no matter how ridiculous to them it may seem. I have a plan and I will get there one day.
My confidence comes from a variety of things. One of the biggest was having someone to support me no matter what. Sort of like a life coach and no this is not required for what I am about to explain. It was more him being the kick in the butt I needed so If you need one of those here's your kick.
Kick!!!!
Let's face it. We all deal with the same everyday things. Work, the bills, the daily hustle and bustle that we call life and the world we live in. But nobody dares tell us how to deal with it all because the rest of us can't figure it out either. The good comes and goes and the bad seems to hover over us in all the wrong times. There was a lot I needed to realize.
1. Things happen whenever they want. It's not karma. You are not a bad person.
2. Someone will always try to belittle your dreams and goals because they themselves to do not have the strength in themselves to succeed.
3. You will get nowhere by sitting idly by You must take action
4. Just because you realize who your are and who you want to be doesn't mean those closest to you will understand or be able to accept the changes you are making.
And 5. You will fail! Over and over and over before anything comes to be what you want it. You have lived life for so long doing things the same way you always did and you will have to learn through mistake and adjust in order for things to change
I know, I know you have heard all the same things before so what's my point? I cannot tell you how many times I heard all of these things over and over before I learned how to apply these things to my life and forgive me for the language but my motto became "I don't give a f**k"
It encompassed everything I needed to be able to believe in myself again. I didn't care what people thought about me and how I did things. I am my own person and I had to stop caring about what everyone else thought in order to make myself happy which is the first step to succeeding. You have to be happy with yourself and confident in your own goals without letting those negative thoughts change you and your thoughts. Only you know what you are capable of and only you have the ability to make what you want a reality.
As I did the many things I have pointed out I became not only a happier person (I've always been optimistic) but a stronger person. I was able to see how me being me affected my life and those around me. I was more confident and made sure I was spending the time I had investing in my future and what I wanted it to be. Not what anyone else wanted it to be,
Again I won't lie and tell you I am all set where I am and that I have done all the necessary things and that this is now where I stand. Telling you how to be you. No, this is a step on the road I have taken for myself and my daughter. To tell the truth I am applying for more of the same part-time dead end jobs I described before but my outlook on them is now different. I can use these jobs to work on other things that will benefit me in the future. The customer service, the money of course, etc, etc, My point is I could be miserable about having to get a crappy job or I could look at this as a step. I choose the step.
What are some of yours goals? Think big. Now adjust and come up with a plan. Only you can make you truly happy. Not your kids, not your spouse. They can be part of what makes you happy and part of your accomplished goals but in the end you have to know that even they will not make you happy if you are not happy with yourself.
You are the best you, the only you and I love you for you!
In the comments below I would love to hear your goals and aspirations and how you plan to get there. Others may learn from you as well so don't be afraid to be you and share.